MARCH 26, 2011 NEWSLETTER

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Barbara Sher's Newsletter
March 26, 2011
Hi All

Having some fun the last few days trying out a new idea on Facebook and the results are so good I'm going to tell you about it so you can join (in a day or two when I have someplace for you to sign up).

Here's what happened: In our last teleclass, one of my WriteSpeak students told us about someone who held 500 (well, sort of) 20-minute telephone sessions for anyone who called to talk about (I think) feeling confident.

What a great idea! The best part was that he used some kind of scheduling program where people scheduled themselves. That sounds a lot like easy and I love easy! So I huddled and pow-wowed with my brain trust son in the kitchen and he liked it, started rolling out the webcams. Here's what I came up with:

"Find Your Wish in 20 Minutes." And I put it up on Facebook to see if anyone cared.

Within 4 seconds I had about 10 messages: saying 'Me, please!'

Here's the thing. Through the years of doing 1000's (yes, I mean that) of private sessions, usually one-time only, I saw that most of the people came in thinking they didn't know what they wanted. 'Hi,' I'd say. 'What can I do for you?' and they'd say, 'I have no idea what I want to do with my life.' It was amazingly common. But they did know, of course. Most of the time we found it in minutes and spent the rest of the time figuring out how to make it happen.

When I started doing big workshops I was used to it. I'd open with it: "How many of you think you don't know what you want?" (About 70-75% of the audience raised their hands). "How many of you know what you want but think it's impossible?" (same number of hands raised.) "And how many of you want so many things you can't decide which one to choose?" and about 65% of the hands in the audience went up.

Now, I'm not great at math, but it seemed to me that most people raised their hands for all the questions. They didn't know what they wanted, they did know but it was impossible, and a lot of them wanted too many things and couldn't choose.

In the big workshops it was just as easy to figure out what people wanted. I'd ask a handful to stand up and say their wish and obstacle and they'd say they didn't know what they wanted. A few questions and answers back and forth and they did. So why do so many people think they don't know what they want when they clearly do know? Most of the time it's they just are so sure they can't get it, they just forget about it and try to find a substitute.

Bad decision. You can't want what you don't want.

The heart doesn't negotiate. It's like a tuning fork and it knows which tone is right. Your desires are getting their orders from your genes. That means you don't decide what you want, you discover it. Of course, once you discover it, if you don't want to be a fussy, fretful person, and if you do want to know why you're on this planet -- then you have to do it. (That also might stop some of us from admitting what we want, but more about that in a minute.)

So two days ago, I asked the person in my class if she could tell me the name of that appointment scheduling program the guy who did 500 sessions used, and she did, and I thought that while we set it up, I'd run two impromptu evenings by announcing it on Facebook. I wanted to be sure I still have my timing. I got on Skype (and sometimes the telephone) for two evenings, did 10 sessions with those Facebook people who showed up so fast, and it was totally jolly. I loved it. They loved it too.

I changed the name of the process to 'Find Your Wish in 20 Minutes (or Less)' because, sure enough, it was mostly taking about 10 minutes. Good thing, because the tech troubles ate up the other 10 anyway.

Now I'm in the mood. So I'm setting up my Snoopy stand and I invite you to step right up and Find Your Wish in 20 Minutes (or Less).

In spite of cruel technology problems, we captured about 6 minutes of the last session. It will give you an idea.


And then my brain trust and I will huddle around the kitchen table setting up that appointment thingie, and then come up with dates that are open (really soon, a few days from now). And then, if you'd like to play, you can come in and set up your own time.

I didn't charge for the tryouts -- and the connections were so lousy I feel I owe them money. But I'll charge a small amount for the next ones. Most of the money is going to the Himalayan Orphanage http://www.himalayanculturalconservation.org/index.html I try to help.

It's just that I want to talk to the people who need the answer to 'What do I want?' and 'What do I do now?' and 'What am I supposed be when I grow up?' at least enough to spend 20 bucks on it.

I promised I'd let you know when the fancy automated pick your own appointment whatsis starts to work, and it has. So send me an email and I'll tell you how to get there. (Clue: It all starts when Paypal gets its $20.)

PLEASE NOTE: If it feels truly urgent that you get a session, and if you're one of those polite people who follows the rules and winds up at the end of the line after all the sandwiches are gone, then hit reply right now and tell me you want your 20 minutes and I'll tell you what to do next.

After you know what you want (and I have to hear a smile in your voice before I believe you found the right thing), we'll take the next step -- how to get it.

But I hope you'll take a little time to enjoy being unstuck. It's a great feeling.

Here are your audio tips. (Dear blog readers: to hear those tips, go to http://www.geniuspress.com and you'll see the signs.

Warm regards,

Barbara Sher

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